THE WAR OF THE SEXS

As we well know, a war is a strategy men invented to win. Win lands, win kingdoms, win women, win…

War has never been a part of a women’s language, until we wanted to win.

We are in a time when women want to make changes. The world as it has been until now, is no longer of any use to us. It isn’t of any use because we have realized that in this world we are inferior beings and slaves. We have awakened to a new liberating consciousness of freeing ourselves of the domestications we are tied to.

This feminine change needs of a masculine change as well, but it is hard for men. We bet that this isn’t because he is evil; we rather think that his views of the world are different from ours, because he has the view from the hegemony position. The change he should make scares him, maybe because he thinks he will loose this hegemony. And in some way it is true, because in the change women suggest hegemonies do not exist, from either side.

In these circumstances it is easy that confrontations arise between men (that will rather not change) and women (that bet for a change).

Women in their houses, in their jobs, or in the places where they interact with men, see that they –generally- don’t collaborate, and that these men still have obsolete ideas about women; they even sometimes look for the moment to remind women that HE is the man, that is, the one who gives the orders. It is only natural that we get angry, fight once and again asking for respect, but we will almost never get anywhere.

War isn’t our path; it isn’t our language. If we choose this way we will always loose. Always! We cannot keep insisting on wars because we are getting exhausted; we are becoming bitter; we are getting sick. Besides, men, when attacked, they get defensive and stop listening to us; they think that everything we say or do is a strategy to continue with this war.

We are not saying that to have peace we should stop saying what bothers us or makes us uncomfortable, no! But fighting is not the answer.

Our attitude should change. We cannot “win” respect forcibly. Respect isn’t won, if we respect ourselves, people around us will respect us. Dignity isn’t won either. If we consider we have dignity, we will not participate in actions we consider unworthy of us. The fight for dignity and respect is in vain.

When we are in war, we waste an enormous amount of resources in order to keep surviving, our mood is restless and we don’t have clarity of mind to think, do, project, program, different guidelines; new non-warrior strategies that will allow us to continue our path towards our identity.

In this attitude, a key might be to try not to change men; we will not be able to change them anyway…  Changes in men will happen-if they happen- when they see that women are not their rivals. This will take a lot of time, because we know that when people have lived in a war for a long time, it is very difficult for them to adapt to a peaceful living.

Another strategy –and it is not a cowardice act – is to run away! When collaboration without fights is not possible, the most intelligent strategy is to escape.

We have to be intelligent, for our own good, and think that our priority is to find our own path and our own evolution. But if we maintain ourselves in a low level of constant fighting for our rights, we are diverting from our true mission.

These fights delay us; they don’t let us see where we want to go, and right now, the most important thing is to reach another level of consciousness as women.  And this new consciousness will allow us to establish an ideal collaboration with the masculine sex, because we are opposites but complement each other; we are designed to get along.